HOW WE CAN WORK TOGETHER
Developing Intrinsic Identity©️
A developmental approach to understanding how you became who you became - and what becomes possible when you can choose who you are becoming
You don't necessarily need another diagnosis, another label or another explanation of what's wrong with you
Sometimes the more useful starting point is understanding how you learned to become the person you are
My work offers a developmental perspective for people who want to explore identity, adaptation, relationships, contribution and the possibilities for becoming - particularly when conventional approaches have not answered the questions they are asking.
There are human-development questions that should not automatically be framed as pathology
What is Intrinsic Identity©️
Intrinsic Identity©️ is the part of you that exists beneath the identity you have learned to become. It is about discovering your natural patterns, motivations, needs, values and ways of contributing - and understanding how these may have been shaped, suppressed or distorted by the environments and relationships in which you have developed. The work is not about becoming someone else. It is about creating the freedom to become more fully yourself.
Ways to work with me
Choose your starting point
The work can begin with a single conversation, an assessment or a deeper developmental programme
Not every question about being human is a clinical question
This is not psychotherapy or medical treatment, and I do not diagnose or treat mental illness. Where clinical or medical care is appropriate, that matters, but not every question about being human is a clinical question. Psychology often asks: "What is happening to you?"
But there are also questions about identity, development, meaning and how we participate in life that deserve a different kind of conversation
Your Intrinsic Identity© asks: "How did you become who you became and what might you become capable of developing?"
What are you actually looking for?
You may be:
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Trying to understand why you keep repeating the same patterns
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Successful but disconnected from your life
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Questioning your work, relationships or direction
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Recovering from an addictive or dependent pattern
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Tired of being the person everyone needs
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Wanting to understand your strengths without being defined by them
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Simply wondering “Who am I becoming?”
You don't need to know exactly what you need before we begin. We start with the question, not the package ....
The work
Developing Intrinsic Identity©️ is not about finding your “true self”
It is about developing your capacity to distinguish what is genuinely yours from what you learned to become - and then choosing how you develop and express it
We may explore:
Identity - Who have you learned to be?
Adaptation - What became necessary for belonging, safety, approval or significance?
Relationships - How do you remain yourself while allowing others to remain themselves?
Contribution - What becomes possible when you stop proving your worth and begin contributing what you genuinely have to offer?
Development - Who are you capable of becoming?
Then:
CliftonStrengths®️ may be part of this work - but it does not define you
Understanding how you became who you became - and developing the capacity to choose who you become next One-to-one work
Developing the capacity to remain yourself while creating healthier, more interdependent relationships Couples and relationship work
Helping people and organisations understand how different ways of thinking, contributing and relating can create healthier systems Leadership, teams and organisational development
Want to start learning before working with me?
My Entry-Level Online Learning Resource
You can begin exploring your Strengths, natural patterns, Needs, Contributions, triggers, over/underuse patterns and the ways our differences influence how we relate to ourselves and others through the WITH-Humanity online learning resources.
It is a low-cost way to start learning about yourself and the ideas behind this work before deciding whether one-to-one development is right for you
MY SERVICES
Read MoreBegin exploring who you are beneath the identity you've learned to become
2 hr
295 British pounds
Read MoreHow did I become who I became? Explore how your identity has developed & what may genuinely be yours
2 hr
395 British pounds
Read MoreWhat is genuinely mine to integrate? Explore natural patterns, beyond learned identity you've become
2 hr
495 British pounds
Read MoreWho might I become? Intrinsic Identity©️ Purpose & Development Intensive
2 hr 45 min
795 British pounds
Read MoreIncludes: CliftonStrengths®️ Top 5 assessment and supporting reports
2 hr
650 British pounds
Read MoreTwo unique Intrinsic Identities, authentically becoming one interdependent marriage
45 min
2,400 British pounds
Read MoreFor someone who wants focused developmental support after beginning Intrinsic Identity©️ exploration
45 min
795 British pounds
Read MoreExplore who you've learned to be and discover who you can authentically become.
45 min
1,450 British pounds
Read MoreExplore who you've learned to be and discover who you can authentically become
45 min
1,950 British pounds
